Do Not Get Married Unless You Ask Your Partner These 10 Questions!
A good relationship tip before considering marriage is to take the time to ask questions that probe the depths of your partner’s personality and psychology. Here are eleven questions you can ask to determine if your partner is a good match for marriage:
1.Why do you love me?
This question provides real information about your partner’s psychological and social needs. If the focus seems to be on what you have or what you can bring materially into the marriage, you may need to look elsewhere for a genuine commitment.
2. What makes you feel loved?
Often what makes one person feel loved is very different from another. Understanding what works for both of you will help you maintain a strong bond and avoid bigger problems later on.
3. What are your goals and are you willing to adapt them to your relationship?
This question can reveal the priority of the relationship in the overall life plan. If the person is more into achieving life goals and expects you to make all the adjustments, this could be an unfavorable sign.
4. What does your ideal life path look like?
Talk about what they would like their life to look like in a few years, including things like their career or where they would like to live. This can help identify potential challenges and opportunities you both might have regarding your future together.
5. How do you feel about children and how they would fit into our lives?
Having children is a key part of the kind of life you and your partner would like to live together. If he or she wants children, how many children he or she wants to have and how he or she would like to raise his or her children are things that should be clear and agreed upon before moving forward.
6. What does family mean to you?
What value does your partner place on family? What is the nature of his or her relationship with parents and siblings? Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and do either of us worry that parents will interfere with the relationship?
7. What are your financial goals and how might we achieve them?
This question can help identify financial knowledge, values about money and how you and your partner can build together financially. Discuss how they envision how you will both manage funds and income once married – would you have a joint account, or is there another ideal method?
8. How do you handle conflict?
Determine how your partner handles disagreements and conflict resolution in relation to your own conflict resolution skills.
9. Are there any serious, life-altering health issues that we should disclose to each other?
When you promise to spend your whole life with someone and care for them in sickness and in health, there are things you should be aware of. Are there genetic diseases in the family that you should be prepared for?
Do each of us have full confidence in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that this bond can survive any challenges we may face?
This answer can tell you if the person understands the nature of close relationships and the constant maintenance they require.
