8 Warning Signs of Mαnipulation in a Relationship
1. Your relationship is constantly changing.
Even though you are showered with gifts, words of love and affection, in your heart, you never know where you stand with your partner emotionally, and it’s all so confusing.
2. He puts the blame on you if you don’t give in.
Suddenly, it’s all your fault. It’s up to you to do something he should have done and if you don’t, something bad will happen to him. They know you don’t want anything bad to happen to them, so you do what they ask.
3. Make yourself responsible for their emotions.
If they are feeling sad, angry, upset, frustrated or whatever, it’s probably because you made them feel that way. If this is the case, you will feel bad, apologize profusely and this will give them ultimate control and make them feel powerful.
4. There are conditions to be met
I’m going to do this, but you have to do this first. This is not unconditional love or kindness. It’s manipulation, pure and simple.
5. What they want, you want too – you’ll see.
What’s not normal is having to completely put aside what you want and need in order to appease your partner. Regardless of the fact that you really don’t need it.
6. Hurry up and decide
If you don’t respond or make a decision fast enough, he will do it for you. It’s not that the manipulator is impatient. He just wants the upper hand and really doesn’t want you to make a decision.
7. No communication/cold shoulder
He doesn’t answer your calls or even talk to you if you are in the same room. He wants you to feel guilty and beg him to talk to you again.
8. Have mercy on me, damn it!
They often play the victim to get you to do what they want you to do or feel sorry for them. That way, once they have your pity, they know they can use that chess piece whenever they want something.
