4 Things Your Partner Should Never Say To You In An Argument
Here are 4 things your partner should never say to you during an argument.
1. Criticism
Instead of bringing up a problem that can easily be solved, criticism often turns every problem into a character flaw on the part of a partner. Criticism has no solution, it only makes one partner feel attacked and hurt.
2. Contempt
Contempt is when one partner ignores or actively belittles the other. In fact, contempt is when one partner treats the other as if he or she is not important. Insults are never acceptable because the person receiving them will not forget them, even if you didn’t mean them or apologize profusely.
3. Defensiveness
When we feel we are being attacked or accused, defensiveness helps us deflect blame and avoid attack. Your partner often feels like he or she can’t talk to you because you don’t take what he or she says seriously. When you feel like your partner is not listening to you or taking your concerns seriously, you may feel torn and alone.
4. Stonewalling
This can mean refusing to talk or physically leaving for another place. This often happens when one partner feels completely overwhelmed by the emotional intensity of what is happening.
Turning a deaf ear or withdrawing from the conversation may allow you to distract yourself from the pain you are feeling in your relationship. However, it also means that you and your partner cannot find a solution together that works for your relationship.
